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Emotional Flooding

In relationships, emotional flooding is the overwhelming reaction to negativity from partners. Recognizing signs like rapid heartbeat is crucial. Strategic pauses and returning to the conversation calmly are vital to prevent escalation and strengthen bonds.

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Avoiding Burnout

In the pursuit of avoiding burnout, it's important to prioritize what truly matters to us. This means letting go of the pressure to meet external expectations and focusing on activities, relationships, and pursuits that align with our values. By doing so, we create a more intentional and fulfilling life that contributes to our overall well-being.

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Lindsay Kuczera, LMSW Lindsay Kuczera, LMSW

Boundaries Check In: A Guide to Recognizing a Lack of Boundaries

As women navigating through all of our responsibilities and expectations, recognizing the signs that indicate a need for boundaries is crucial for maintaining mental health. Watch out for neglecting self-care, wanting to run away from responsibilities, feeling overwhelmed, feeling resentful towards others, avoiding interactions, being unable to ask for help, or feeling burned out.

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What to Expect at Your First Counseling Session

By understanding what to expect and embracing the process with an open mind, you're setting yourself up for a positive and transformative experience. Change takes time, and the path to healing may have its ups and downs. There will be moments of breakthroughs and self-discovery, as well as moments of challenge and self-reflection. But amidst it all, hold onto the hope that therapy can be a powerful tool for positive change in your life. Know that you're not alone, and with each session, you're taking a courageous step toward a brighter future. Your therapist is there to guide you, support you, and empower you to become the best version of yourself. Embrace the process, and with time and effort, you'll find the healing and growth you're seeking.

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Does Grief Counseling Help?

While grief is a natural response to loss, it can be a challenging and complex emotional journey. Grief Counseling can provide the tools, guidance, and support individuals need to navigate this journey more effectively and ultimately find a path towards healing and resilience. When we don’t allow ourselves the time and space to process and heal from our grief it is at a risk of becoming ‘Complicated Grief’.

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Surviving Winter With Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

For those who struggle with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), these long, cold months can bring more than just beautiful scenes – they can also bring seasonal depression. Read this blog post to create a mental health plan that helps you not just endure, but enjoy Michigan's winter season.

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Clear Communication is Kind

In our pursuit of being kind and accommodating to others, many of us have fallen into the trap of being passive communicators. We believe that going with the flow and saying "yes" to everything is a benevolent gesture, but little do we realize that suppressing our own opinions and feelings can lead to the accumulation of resentment. Eventually, this unexpressed resentment can cause relationships to break down and rupture. The key to preventing this emotional turmoil lies in embracing the concept that clear communication is kind.

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The Power of Conversation

Through dialogue, we can foster empathy, deepen understanding, and strengthen relationships. It is through these sometimes uncomfortable conversations that we have the opportunity to learn, grow, and find common ground.

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Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression is a common and serious condition that affects about 20% of new mothers. It's not the "baby blues" that many new mothers experience, which is a milder and shorter-lived condition. Postpartum depression can be severe, and it can last for weeks, months, or even longer.

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An Open Letter to MSU Students Returning To Campus

As I have been leading crisis sessions in response to the shooting, I am acutely aware that there is little I can offer. Nevertheless, there are a few things that I want to share with you as you prepare to return to campus today.

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Feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day? You are not alone.

I know that feeling lonely can be incredibly difficult and painful, but I want you to know that you are not alone in your experience. So many of us have felt this way at one point or another, and it's okay to feel this way. Loneliness is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. It's simply a feeling that we all experience from time to time. And while it may feel overwhelming right now, remember it is a temporary feeling and you will get through it.

You are loved and valued, and you deserve to experience happiness and fulfillment. You've got this.

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Christen Clark Christen Clark

Does online therapy really work?

In online therapy, you get to be yourself. You can show up with your cozy blanket, your dog on your lap, and your favorite mug full of tea. When you get to know each other, the feeling of being virtual drops away. You can build a relationship virtually with a therapist just as well as in-person.

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How to Reduce Anxiety Around Finances

If you ever think “I just want to be able to spend my money without feeling guilty” or “I just want to be able to pay my bills and have money left over to do the things I want to do” you’re in the right place. Keep reading as we answer the questions we get most and by the end of this post, we’ll leave you with a doable challenge you can take to move in the right direction financially.

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Before You Start Therapy

You’ve done it. You’ve sent the email. Had the phone consultation. Filled out the paperwork. Now what? You felt compelled to reach out for therapy for a reason! REASON! You want (or NEED) something to change. You feel confident this was the right next step but now what? Your first session could be anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of weeks away. What are you supposed to do in the meantime while you are feeling depressed, hopeless, anxious, or restless?

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Christen Clark Christen Clark

How Are You?

We say “how are you” to the person checking us out at the grocery store, to a neighbor we pass by on a walk, and to our family and friends when we see them. If you’re struggling with depression or anxiety sometimes it might feel like a trick question. You might even be thinking, “Do they really want to know?”. When we are in the midst of a mental health struggle we often feel alone, like no one would ever understand. Some of us hide how we are feeling - silently suffering inside while everyone around us thinks we are fine. We all deserve support. We deserve to be able to open up with our most vulnerable feelings, fears, and thoughts. If you’re a client of mine, I’m 99% sure you’ve heard me tell you that you are not alone. I am serious - you are not alone. Not only has someone likely gone through something similar, those around you may be able to relate to what you’re going through more than you can imagine.

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Comparing Our Suffering

“I don’t know why I’m complaining I don’t have it as bad as ____”. Sound familiar? It’s interesting how a coping mechanism we use is comparing how hard our lives are with someone else. Then we judge ourselves if we feel like we are reacting too big. We are quick to dismiss our feelings as “too much” or embarrassing. What does this do for us? The argument I hear often is that it helps put things in perspective but, what I often notice is that this leads to shame about our emotions.

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The Pain of Counseling

There’s one thing in common with all of us when we go to counseling: we acknowledge something isn’t working. From symptoms like sadness, tearfulness, confusion, anxiety, or relationship issues we know deep down things need to change. Things aren’t working. Counseling helps us be honest with ourselves about what is going on. It can help us curiously explore patterns that are no longer working for us (things like avoidance or judgment). We can work towards trying something different. It will be hard - sometimes exhausting- but it will be worth it.

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The Truth About Emotions

What if continuing to resist the hard emotions and feelings (sadness, anger, hurt, embarrassment, guilt) in our lives is leading to not being able to feel the emotions we want to feel. It feels counter intuitive to ask someone to dive deeper into the emotions they are feeling when everything in us is telling us to run. What if the answer is resting in those emotions, letting them shine and getting curious about what they are telling us.

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